I’ve been on a couple girl dates recently.
And I’ll be the first to admit that “going out” takes on a whole new meaning once you are out of college, married and have kids.
Before, you met your friends in class, in your dorm or in your sorority house. But now, you meet new friends at your child’s preschool or soccer practice or tumbling class.
When you were younger, you’d still be in front of the mirror, posing and primping, at 9pm. But now, you are yawning and ready to head home.
You used to scream down the hall or through the sorority house to ask what your friends were wearing for the night, but now you sheepishly send a text to your girl date because your closet is overflowing with a *plethora* of clothes that were cute and hip in 2004, and you firmly believe the saying, “Safety in numbers.”
Now that you are old and married, even an afternoon “date” would suffice, and may consist of nothing more than attending a dance recital with your new mom friend because you both are thinking of enrolling your daughters there in the fall.
Now… you can’t leave your house until “I love yous” are exchanged and goodnight kisses are planted on cherub cheeks.
Now…you realize, as your husband looks you up and down as you scurry out the door, that he hasn’t seen you this dolled up in years.
Now…you meet up in the local grocery store parking lot and decide who’s mom mobile you’ll be taking for your *wild night* on the town. {Side note: since we are a Swagger Wagon-less household, I’m usually the driver.}
Now…you use your city-wide coupon book to help determine your dining destination. You know the kind I’m talking about…the ones you buy as part of a school fundraiser?
Now…you keep your cell phone handy in case your husband has a question about the kids.
Now…you get excited to drink a raspberry margarita with your Mexican dinner, but can only drink 1/4 of it because you are a “lightweight” and have zero tolerance. You don’t want to look like a complete ass fool in front of your girl date, so you just keep eating and talking, and willingly leave the remainder of your frozen beverage sitting on the table.
When’s the last time you went on a girl date?
*This post is dedicated to my recent girl dates…you know who you are.
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I am SO bad about girl dates. I don’t go on them anymore because I just have comepletely forgotten how to behave on them. I did go to a birthday lunch in March, hmmm, make that Feb.
Does going to the and meeting your friend count as a girls night out?
L
My last girl date was a group date from my Moms of Preschoolers leaders team… it was fun we stayed out until 9 and ate ice cream and talked about, wait for it… our labor experiences. LOL.
Oh my goodness, it’s been way too long since my last girls night out. I’m due for one soon.
Another thing that’s changed as far as girls dates go is the conversation. When we were younger we gushed over guys. Now we gush about the baby’s latest milestone.
Times sure have changed, but one thing’s for certain. We all need to get away sometimes. Thanks for stopping by my place and giving me a reason to “get away”. Have a great day.
Kristi, Live and Love…Out Loud
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I LIVE for girl dates!!
My moms group is hosting a Sprinkle for one of our moms tomorrow night and I’m ready to get my drink on!
First. . .thanks for taking the time to visit, read, and comment in my blog world. Very nice of you.
You’ve hit it all right on the head with this post. . . . all so true for most of us.
Dana
I actually have pretty regular girl dates with my best friend! We have a standing Saturday date where we go to lunch & then out shopping around a little bit. We have seriously done it almost every Saturday now for about 2 years. She always has her 2 girls with her & I have my daughter with me every other Saturday. It’s really fun!
But we do have a special girl date planned for this Friday night! We are going to dinner & then to see Eclipse! Our husbands are putting the kiddos to bed & we get a girl date!!
that was one of the funniest blog posts I have read yet! that was very funny! thanks
Kris
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As a single mom, it is so hard to get out with friends! It is such a different life than the one we led as young women with no responsibilities.
I enjoyed dinner out with a friend a couple of weeks ago and it reminded me how much I miss that girl time. I plan to make time to do that more often in the coming months.
Hysterical! And unfortunately, very true. I went on a girl date – in the afternoon, to see the movie “Babies,” do a little shopping and have dinner – last month. And we tried to remember if we’d ever gone out, just the two of us, without kids or other moms. Then I had to get home to nurse my baby, so there were no alcoholic beverages. But the conversation and time to browse and chat and eat without ANY interruptions? Priceless!
A friend of mine recently invited me out with her friend’s for her birthday lunch and to see Sex and the City 2. It was my first “girl-date” out since having baby number 2 and it was SO great. And since she drove, I had the first bloody mary in 3 years and it was AMAZING!
Very funny post and it really hits to the “mom” and “girlfriend” in all of us
Stopping in from the Red Dress Club 
So funny! I love the part about which “mom mobile” you’ll take. We have a Honda Accord that I drive on the rare occasions I’m childless and I always feel so free and hip in it.
This sound like so much fun! I need to try to hook up for a girl date.
oh god. this just made me really really sad and i just had the image of me primping in front of the sorority house mirror.
but it’s a bittersweet thing, you know? life is so much more now but there’s still the tinge of wanting to taste the past and you’ve been able to bring both worlds, the past and present, to life.
enjoyed this post and of course, i’m saying hi from the red dress club!
It has been a while since I’ve gone out on a girl date. But after reading this, I think I need to call up a few of my girls and set something up!
I don’t even have kids yet, but I can totally relate to some of these!
Oh, how I wish I was able to go out on a girl date! Most of my friends are either younger or older and don’t have kids!
This is sooo hilarious to me. Because it’s so true. Particularly the part about being ready to call it a night at 9:30 instead of just going out then.
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