When you’ve hit your limbo limit

If your life is one that includes a “corporate relocation” factor, your mindset and views on the future are vastly different than those of individuals, couples and families without it. I’m not saying that it’s good, bad or otherwise – just that so many conversations and decisions of people who live the relocation life start with, end with or hinge on the phrase, “if we’re even still here“.

We’ve been back in TN for 4.5 yrs, the longest we’ve been at one address. We don’t feel that it’s our final stop, but we also have learned that anything is possible. (It’s not like either of us ever imagined moving out of Illinois, let alone living in Memphis, then New Hampshire, then moving back to Memphis.)

Craig and I built our first home. Then we remodeled our second home, inside and out.

When we moved back to Tennessee, we definitely didn’t have the luxury of time. We received an above-asking price offer on our NH home the same day it went on the market. I was extremely pregnant. So pregnant, in fact, that I was too pregnant to fly and gave Craig the go ahead to purchase our current home without me ever seeing anything more than the MLS photos.

With the closing date on the sale of our NH home the same day as Maddie’s due date, we were grateful for the home we did find as it theoretically ticked all the boxes on our list. Having done all the work we had in NH, we knew that we would be able to change the things we did not like in this house as we saw fit.

We’ve gradually done just that over the years. For us, we’ve found that our remodeling tends to come in spurts and always involves us asking ourselves the question, “Is this something that needs to get done before we resell the house?

The first thing we did when we moved in was repaint all the interior walls. Since then we’ve completed a couple large scale landscaping projects, replaced all the carpet, painted the exterior of our home, changed all the bathroom fixtures to oil-rubbed bronze, purchased a couple kitchen appliances, completed a mini kitchen remodel, and most recently, replaced all the lighting fixtures throughout the house.

(Sorry, but I don’t think gold crackle finish was ever an acceptable lighting choice. Especially not in 2004 when this home was built.)

Craig’s been on a roll these past 4 days getting house projects done faster than I can add them to the Honey Do list. Although there’s always a lot of hemming and hawing about which projects we should undertake, we both also realize that there’s a limit to living in limbo: This is our home, and we need to enjoy it as such. Even though our tenure at this address is uncertain.

We’ve made the decision to knock out the final few things on our “We want this AND it will be good for resale” list, and then sit back and enjoy our hard work.

So, while he’s busy painting all the interior doors, I’m going to get started admiring my new dining room. The new paint, blinds, drapes, wall hanging and light fixture all make me very, very happy.



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9 Responses to When you’ve hit your limbo limit
  1. Courtney
    December 29, 2012 | 12:56 pm

    This is how we felt in our 1st home. Now that we moved to a place that we most likely won’t leave, I feel like we are SUPER slow on getting projects done. We have so many things we want to do to the house it’s a combination of “what to do first” & “well we’ll be here forever so let’s wait until we have the money to do it exactly how we want it”. I am starting to feel like it will never get done though!

  2. Kristi {at} Live and Love Out Loud
    December 29, 2012 | 1:06 pm

    I always love your home design and remodel stuff. (Totally living vicariously through you as we’re still living in a hotel. lol)

    Hope you’re doing well, Liz. Long time no talk. 🙁

    • liz
      December 29, 2012 | 2:21 pm

      I know it seems unbearable, but your hotel days won’t last forever! And someday, you’ll look back and laugh at them. 🙂

      Hugs to you!

  3. Stefanie
    December 29, 2012 | 2:35 pm

    That has to be difficult not knowing when the next move will be, but I agree that you should enjoy it. I bet everything will look great when you are finished!

  4. Roxanne
    December 29, 2012 | 10:51 pm

    I used to feel the same way about the apartment I live in. I don’t own it, but my dad does. So theoretically I can make all the remodeling decisions I want to. I stuck to just painting in the beginning, thinking it would be temporary until I could afford my own home. We’ve been there 5 years now, and I am making it a home – even though I still keep hoping it won’t be a permanent living arrangement. Next step is new carpeting!

    PS Your dining room looks great!

  5. Andrea
    December 31, 2012 | 11:01 am

    I know the feeling. We go through the same thing. Usually by the second year we are just waiting for that relocation call.
    I love your dining room, beautiful!

  6. Sherri
    January 2, 2013 | 1:03 am

    I cracked up “watching” Craig’s renovation craze on Twitter/FB…we have been in this house for 16 years now, and the list of “possible” fixes is long. But we finally bit the bullet and had the house exterior painted, rock facade replaced and a huge ugly bush/tree torn out.

    Feels good. Enjoy your updates…while you can?

  7. Lady Jennie
    January 2, 2013 | 1:07 pm

    For being in limbo I think you guys have done a pretty incredible job. (Happy New Year!)

  8. Megan (Best of Fates)
    January 10, 2013 | 3:02 pm

    Oooh – it looks lovely! And I’m so impressed you got so much done. Craig can knock off lists and make those cakes? That’s quite a catch.

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